Wow! I’ll be married 5 years this September, and thinking back on the past few years, there are few things that I would have done differently before I got married. So from my older self to my young self, here is some advice I would tell myself.
I would tell myself to be sure you didn’t deplete your savings for a massive wedding. You should have foregone buying those two pair of Kate Spade wedding shoes and Vera Wang Black reception gown and saved that money. You should have gone into your marriage with a nice savings. A savings that could contribute to a down payment on your first home together. A savings that could help pay bills while you’re on maternity leave (twice) and not getting 100% of your pay.
Lesson: Basically savings is a must!!!!! Set up an account. Don’t touch it. Pay yourself before you spend.
I would tell myself to use your money to move. Live outside of your comfort levels. You always wanted to live in New York so save up, apply for jobs there, and just move. If not New York, what about LA? What about Paris? What about London?
Lesson: Live somewhere else then come back home to Chicago. If not, you’ll regret it. It’s harder to relocate with a husband and two kids.
King Size Bed and Comfy Mattress
You lived at home until you were 29, and as a result you slept on a twin size bed and bad mattress the entire time. Then you moved into B’s house and slept on his queen bed and mattress. Neither beds were extremely comfortable so why not upgrade your sleeping arrangements..
Lesson: At 35, I now know how important this is so treat yourself early and enjoy some awesome sleep.
I would tell myself to start investing in art. Random I know, but I’ve always wanted art hung in my home. So far I have none, and I’m missing out. Art from a local artist or from someone you found online. It doesn’t have to be pricey just something that speaks to your creative soul. Who knows; you might find a gem, the next Basquiat.
Lessen: No real one just do because you love art. Be fancy.
The Perfect Suit
Do you know I’ve never owned a suit? In all my interviews, I’ve always only worn black trousers and a white blouse. I wish that I had a nice tailored suit to interview in to get my dream job. A power suit that says I belong. I would tell myself to indulge. You just need that one.
Lessen: It’s a staple! Find one that fits you! It’s a must!